What an Airplane Safety Instruction Taught me about Self-Love

In my lifetime, I sure have listened to one too many safety instructions done by these airlines. At first, I’ll sit up to truly listen but the more flights you catch, the more cliché they all start to sound, don’t they? (Don’t be like me, though, listen.)


However, things were different on a flight to New York recently. I had a terrible experience in the previous connecting flight and I decided to pay more attention to flight safety instructions. The terrible experience made me reminisce about the Chapecoense sports team and how a man survived the crash because he was aware of the safety rules. I decided to sit back and actually listen. I heard the flight attendant say,

In the case of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear before you.  If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.

Connections at Billy Bishop Airport, Toronto

This statement stirred me up a bit. I imagine how difficult it will be for a mother to experience an emergency situation like this. As mothers, the first instinct is to protect the child first. You know? A lioness protecting her cub.

Before I started to rile up about how insensitive I thought the instruction was, I gave it a second thought and it made perfect sense. Boy, those Seat A cloud views during a red-eye flight can really get you in a mood of reflection, can’t they? Some soul-searching really does go on in those moments.

Think about it. If there was an issue with the flight and the air masks really did drop, it makes sense to help yourself first before helping your minor. If you helped your minor first, he still wouldn’t know what to do next and you too will be left stranded because ta-da, you cannot breathe and that leaves the both of you in a very bad situation. However, if you helped yourself first and then, helped your minor, you both can leave the place as survivors, as the chances will be much higher. Simply put, it is safer to put your own mask first.

Beyond the airplanes, we can see this reflect in our everyday life, can’t we? We render so much love and care to others while neglecting our very own needs. We put others first but forget to take care of ourselves, our health, our life. Self-love is like a foundation, if not properly addressed, the entire building will come crashing down. We must love and care for ourselves first so we can be empowered to do the same for others.

You cannot pour from an empty cup.

In the past, I have been in relationships and friendships where I was the one doing all the carrying, the one doing all the tending to, the one trying to fix things and truthfully, that is just plain exhausting. It’s only a matter of time before an inevitable burnout occurs. We need to constantly evaluate and ask ourselves, “How full is my cup right now”. If you find that you are running on reserves, then it is very well time to catch a break. I know how tempting it is to be the hero, to want to seize every opportunity to help someone but it is important to realize that we need to be at our best to be able to do that and that might sometimes mean taking a break, saying no to unsolicited invites, disappointing people and just, resting.

How full is your cup right now?


  • Self-acceptance: Truly coming to terms with myself, flaws and all. Reminding myself that I am enough. Knowing that I am unique in the world and there is no one quite like me, ever! (Good luck searching.)
  • Positive affirmations: Telling myself I am capable and I can do all things as long as I set myself to it. Also reminding myself that I am beautiful even on those occasions when my eyeliner isn’t winged enough.
  • Self-reward and appreciation: Rewarding myself for everything, including the small victories. Sometimes we focus too much on things we haven’t achieved and forget to celebrate the ones we do achieve.
  • Giving out: You know what they say about feeling the happiest when you spread love or care for someone else. Self-love is not narcissist or selfish. Giving and caring for others after finding peace within helps to steer the love even more. Maximizing my gifts and talents and paying it forward. What do people benefit simply by knowing you? Are there any perks attached to your association?

Looks like I can now look forward to flying and listening to safety instructions and that will serve as a constant reminder to love myself and then, love others. See, there’s the positive!

What does self-love mean to you and how do you practice it daily? Let me know in the comments.

Now, for safety instructions: This online statistics shows that the odds of being killed in a plane crash is 1 in 29.4 million so that’s great news. However, here’s a great article on how to survive a plane crash.

Until next time, do not forget to love yourself, love others and listen more carefully to airplane safety instructions. Like me, you just might catch an epiphany.




Are you a subscriber to this travel and lifestyle blog? Today’s a great day to join the mailing list for free and be the first to get notified on new articles and perks. Also, if you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share. You never know who it may help.

[wysija_form id=”5″]


Similar Posts


  1. Loved this! I definitely need some more self-love in my life. And “You cannot pour from an empty cup.” is seriously one of my new favorite quotes!

    1. It’s a great quote and such an honest reminder. Gotta keep that cup overflowing so we can give some of that good stuff to others 🙂

  2. Thank you for sharing; I’m not good at practicing self-love but it’s very necessary. In regards to flight safety announcements, I mostly tune them out but find that when at airline changes them frequently, like Delta, I pay attention, especially if they’re a bit “quirky.”

  3. Such an inspirational post! I’m doing a lot of soul searching right now, and practicing the whole self love thing. It’s amazing where inspiration and breakthroughs can come from though! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  4. Great revelation! I have often thought about those same instructions. I love how you tied in those positive affirmations of self love to it all. You must have joy for yourself before you can give that joy to others! I love this!

  5. It amazes me how nice people can be to each other on an airplane when things are not going well. I think it is a realization of we are all in this together. Not only self love but love all around. On a side note, as much as I do not like to fly Southwest, they have the best delivery for flight instructions.

  6. This is so true!! We always put others before us and forget of ourselves, and sometimes, most of the time actually, it is not reciprocal! Great post.

  7. I love your blog post. The harmony between the flight safety rule and self love just got me. It perfect to know you don’t have to give up your happiness for someone else. Thanks Ufuoma.

  8. This was a very good read and I needed to hear it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on such an important issue. Asking myself “how full is my cup right now” and it seems pretty low. Life can get overwhelming but I sure will fix up.
    Thanks dear!

  9. Great post. Who knew simple things in our everyday life can reveal so much? Thank you for sharing.

Comments are closed.